The friends and family plan

When I started seeing a Therapist to better understand my Transgender self, and because it is required to if you want to have the final surgery, one of the first things she told me (I had read it previously on the Internet) was to be prepared to lose half your family and all your friends. A truer statement was never uttered. I've only told two people in my family so far, and my two closest friends. One of the two family members I have told of my transition was my sister. She has pasted on now, but she accepted it right off. I'm not telling my two brothers because they are both Macho males and it wouldn't turn out well. I will tell them when I can no longer hide it. (after surgery) My friends however are a different story. They are both fine with it as long as were not seen in public together. I have my theories as to why they feel this way. The biggest reason I believe is that they don't want people to judge them. I know it must be hard to see and accept a friend that you have known all your life suddenly become someone that looks and acts completely opposite. It has been my experience that men have a much harder time accepting Transgender friends than females do. It makes me sad and a bit angry at their attitude. It took me decades to accept who I really was, so I can't expect them to do it in a few short months. Even if it takes them years I'll live with it, I just won't like it. I led a dual life for so long it is now very hard to go back to dressing like a man just to hang out with them. I loathe going back and forth between male and female but I will for a while because I want to keep my friends. Again after my surgeries they will have to make the choice if they have not up to that point. I hope they choose in favor of our friendship. Something tells me they won't. It will be their lose.